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Feabie banned me forever for receiving a rape threat and appealing my ban.

DO NOT JOIN FEABIE, QUIT FEABIE

I have also treated badly on that site, also if you are male on there that you are creep automatically that is reason for ban.

Please avoid that site in general is my advice.

If I understand correctly, you're the victim, and you're the one who got banned. That's unbelievable, well done Feabie.

yeah, that doesn't make sense.... forgive me for doubting the original poster, but that explanation sounds very suspicious and unrealistic to me.

i have been a member here for a long time, i've been a member here for a long time... they are very different places. they have slightly different rules. in both places i have found if you follow the rules, you have no issues. feabie has a very strong policy against "naming and shaming," so if you don't know that, it can get you in trouble. but, just like here, if you report people (as i have done dozens of times) they seem to deal with things pretty well, for the most part.

as with all sites, we're all guests on someone else's platform. know their rules, and follow them.

i also never understood why someone would go to one website to complain about another. what is that going to achieve?

More details are warranted before rendering an opinion, (but the details are private, so I’ll refrain). This is the third identical thread created by the OP. I’m not defending Feabie, and certainly not saying she doesn’t have a legitimate grievance, but we would need a bit more information about what transpired to provide informed commentary.

all good, valid points. but i would ask, why bother probing further? why even bring it up here on this website in the first place?

if you don't like it, don't go there. but coming here and telling others to stay away just makes me feel like they have an axe to grind, and it probably says more about the individual than the site they're slandering.

I agree with everything you said. (My further thoughts on the matter will stay inside my head for now).

Yes, this ^.
(Except for those of us like me with our own sites, on our own sites.)



I have no opinion on the current specific posts earlier in this thread/other site.

In general, if a person is unable to communicate to what they perceive to be their community on one site (e.g. because of a ban), and they believe there may be significant crossover of member of their community on some other site(s), and they wish to share their experience, they might well do so on some other unrelated site.

OP is far from the first to slam Feabie here (over the years), and many in prior years (last i looked) have slammed FF on Feabie. Etc. on other sites in our community.

A little bit like reviews/ratings of ebay (or Amazon or whatever else) sellers, one or a small few negatives may reflect specific circumstances or misunderstandings, and may not change anything. A significant number of negatives might indicate something to consider… or be noise from a bot army/AI slop/etc.

that has totally not been my experience there, very much the opposite.

sounds to me like you are targeting a very specific group of people - and that's their prerogative. they're on the site as a means to an end.

so, i am going to go off on a bit of a tangent now, but i'm interested in seeing if anyone else sees things the same way... but first, my qualifiers: i am a (relatively) old guy who has a partner and is not using social media or websites to date anyone.

i see a lot of people - mostly single men - participate on site like feabie (and here, to a much lesser extent) only by responding to the posts of women sharing photos, etc. they don't spend any effort on their profile, they don't post very much of their own material (ie: they aren't contributing - just responding). now, the women who post the most are creators who treat their contributions like a job - because it is, to them. but they're not really that interested in what any one person has to say. some of them are community minded, but i would argue most are not.

now, these guys are following women who are being followed by dozens of other guys. and when the guy feels like he's invested enough (though from what any other user can see, he's contributed nothing), he may ask for something... and this is where the woman essentially says "pay up or shut up." and then they post a message like the one quoted above.

but my thesis is this.... that user is chasing someone who is interested in commerce. they are acting like it's a dating site - it's not (go to wooplus for that - it worked for me!). it's a community, just like this. do people find dates and relationships on it? yes! but it's only 0.1% of users that do! they are the extreme outlier. the fact is that they are being drawn in by someone who is sharing themselves (whether for money or not), but that person almost always has no interest in them. but guys (especially guys, and especially especially guys online) start to feel a sense of entitlement, even just by being acknowledged.

sorry for the length, but i am really interested if anyone else sees this phenomenon?

i am soooo tired of reading guys posts about how everyone else is out to scam them - i know it can't possibly be true because it hardly ever happens to me... but then, i am almost never asking women online for anything. no photos, no fat chat, not to meet me on another website.

thoughts?

There are for sure no end of desperate men who have a minimum of social etiquette on feabie, harassing women and filling their inbox with junk and unwanted exposure as they do on basically any website where women exist.

But I don't think your thesis adds up. Feabie does not bill itself as an e-commerce site. Their own self-description is "Feabie is a social network and community for feeders, feedees, fat admirers and BBW/BHM".

I'm not sure what part of that description implies that it is a website where people sell their wares. "Community" implies that it's a place for likeminded people to hang out and talk about their shared interests.

The frontpage literally has graphics of several couples holding each other close and encourages you to "find friends, dates and mates." Sure, it is not a dating site, but its marketing is leaning infinitely closer to being a dating site than being a marketing platform for webmodels.

If someone came around to my local pub or any other social space I enjoy and started trying to sell me things, I would tell them to get lost and the staff would back me up. I don't think it is remarkable that people are upset at the increasingly transactional nature of basic human interaction as it exists online.

Even this place (like all kink places online at some point) was riddled with it before the mods addressed it. People would get into your DMs and a few messages later they'd straight up ask you for money or else casually reveal they have an OnlyFans, - and once they realised you weren't interested in a transaction, the interaction mysteriously ends.

With credit to the staff, this place remains a genuine community now.